LAURA wants to know your opinion....

Well I can honestly say when it comes to dating I'm not perfect and may want your opinion from time to time.  Let's see if you can help me out on this one, here we go....

If someone you've been dating for a while goes away for about 5-7 days should they be expected to contact you somehow? Do you expect them to contact you? I want to know your thoughts please post your comments!

Comments

[Rosanna]

When someone you've been dating for awhile goes away for more than a couple of days, yes I think it's only considerate for them to somehow contact you, whether it be a phone call, a text message or at the very least an email. And I think if they are truly interested in the relationship progressing, then they would make that effort.

[Kathleen Vespa]

I would say no. I think that everyone needs their space and from time to time we all need a break from our day to day lives. This includes a break from our significant others as well. I don't think anyone should "expect" a phone call, text or email. Of course it is always nice to receive one, but I certainly do not think that this is a method one should use to determine the significance of their relationship with someone. After all it's like the old saying goes...absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you can't go 5-7 days without talking to someone then maybe there are some underlying trust issues that need to be addressed.

[City Girl]

It depends on how far along the relationship is. If you've only been on a few dates then no. It's their holiday and their time. If it's more than a few and you contact each other daily normally then I would say yes, expect a call or at least a text or a sneaky photo message.

I've been here myself. We'd had a few dates and I thought we had really hit it off. He went away for two weeks. I didn't hear anything from him while he was away, which is fine. I wasn't expecting too. But when he came back I didn't hear anything from him either. In fact it took me to e-mail him. He ignored me. I took the hint. Never chase. If he's interested, he'll make the moves.

[Laura Bilotta]

If a person is in a relationship they should definately stay in contact with their partner to let them know they care and to help their partner feel secure. In a relationship, travelling can be tough on the person at home especially with all the infidelity going on in the world.

If you're just dating on the otherhand, I don't believe that contact is 100% necessary, although a quick email or text to let that person know you're thinking about them, will definately give you brownie points and just makes things fun!

Remember, actions speak louder than words. If you see something good and want it, don't let it go as you may just lose is to the next hunter around the corner...

[Kalman Fenster]

Well, I think it's a black or white issue. If the 2 people involved are truly in the relationship and want to make it work, of course they should do something to keep in touch. yes, they are on vacation, business trip or whatever but it's all about the effort and wanting to make it work. Caring about the other person enough to want to make the effort at the very least send a text with a simple Hi, I miss you!!!

If the person away on vacation does nothing to make an effort, maybe it's a perfect sign to let things go before things get serious and someone gets hurt

[Jo]

As a man I have intentionally had times where I do not make first contact in order to see where the relationship stands. If you want to talk to a guy, talk to him, if your waiting for him to call you, your playing the very games so many girls claim they don't like to play. Women make things far too complicated for themselves.
And I disagree with City Girl to an extent. Players make moves, nice guys are often timid. If a girl wants to find a nice guy she should have to meet him half way. I know I'm coming from the land of rainbows and sunshine and that most women have fallen into the trap of laziness and allowing man after man to present himself, but I speak for many men when I say I'm kind of tired of it and wont chase or play these games, if you show interest fine, if you expect to be waited on hand and foot i'm sure theres a jerk out there just for you.